Changing Others

It is important to understand one thing in life. Change is important. Changing yourself is very important. Improving, striving to be better than you were yesterday is an amazing and congratulatory thing to do. However, one must understand a very important lesson in life. A person should never try and change OTHERS.

Changing Others Is Nearly Impossible

Changing another person is nearly an impossible thing to do. I have tried changing one person for a long time, until I realized that I am just wasting my time. The best thing you could ever do for somebody is help them change. Support them and encourage them in a process. One can only provide a person with a different perspective that challenges them and provides a unique view about life. Trying to make the person change and do something about it is nearly impossible. You will be for the most part met with resentment and resistance because the person that you are trying to change will feel as if they are inadequate or that there is something wrong with them. Those emotions can only and will usually cause further negativity and not hope which ones needs in order to change.

Change Is a Personal Choice

Change is personal choice, personal decision which one has to carry out on their own. Consciously. Of course, people will sometimes change over time due to environmental effects, however, consciously taking control over your life is a very hard and demanding thing to do and the last thing you want is somebody breathing over your neck telling that you are not changing and not doing it right. Change is a process, it takes a long time and a lot of effort.

Most people never change. And that is another reason to NOT ever try to change somebody. Most people will die the way they were born because they never put in any time into themselves. I guess, what I am trying to say is that forcing people to change is pointless. It all shows that you do not respect that person they way they are and what they represent. That in itself makes them question your motives.

Change others is a waste of your own resources because you have your own life to live. You have yourself to change and improve…if you chose to do so. Making somebody change just because they do not fit your standard for something is very judgmental and demeaning towards other people. So do yourself and other a favor, change yourself first. Lead by example, be the inspiration that the others might need, be a leader, let them know that it is possible to do whatever they want.

If  They Ask For Help

But if people ask for your help and they are willing to put the effort, I believe that you should fully support the other person in their endeavor, as they might a little extra push a little extra reminder to stay focused and motivated to follow through with their plan.

In short, don’t force change onto others, change yourself and help others when they are in need.